“I don’t even like the way he chews.”
That’s how Sara started our session - half-laughing, half-crying.
She wasn’t trying to be cruel. She was just… done.

Every little thing about her husband irritated her — the way he drove, the way he dressed, the way he walked and talked.
She felt resentful, dis...

The kids were laughing.
Her husband was on the floor, pretending to be a horse, and three little riders were piled on top of him, squealing with delight.

It should have been a sweet scene.
But in the next room, Rivky stood frozen — hands clenched, heart pounding.

They weren’t in pajamas.
The toys ...

“I’m fine.”
That’s what Tova always said — even when she wasn’t.

Even when she felt invisible.
Even when she cried quietly in the shower because it was the only place no one would hear.

For years, Tova prided herself on being the strong one.
She kept everything together — the house, the meals, the...

 “You think I’m supposed to thank him? For what?!”
That’s what Chavi said the first time we spoke about gratitude.
She was angry, tired, and done being the only one who seemed to care about making things better.

Her husband had been distant for months.
He criticized how she handled the kids, rolled...

The holidays are behind us.
The suitcases are (mostly) unpacked.
The kitchen is (mostly) restocked.
And now… life stretches ahead — the long routine of “regular days.”

This is the time when real growth happens.
When the sparkle of Yom Tov gives way to everyday choices.
When your Shalom Bayis — your...

Have you ever felt like your husband was poking at you, throwing out a comment that stings, demanding you do something, or asking for help with something you know he could figure out himself?

That’s bait.

And when you bite? The fight is on.

🎣 What Is “Bait”?

Bait is anything that tempts you to r...

For me, teshuva didn’t start in shul. It started in my marriage.

I was certain of one thing: he needed to change. Not me.
I thought I was a good wife, a good person.
If I was miserable, it had to be his fault.

But he wasn’t changing.
And my resentment grew heavier and heavier.

I tried therapy. It...

Is it just me, or does this time of year feel like running a marathon with no finish line in sight?

The kids are home, the house is upside down, there are school supplies to buy and label, uniforms to find, and Yom Tov is already peeking around the corner. Somewhere in between the summer homework a...

Have you ever thought about how Tisha B’Av and the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash relate to us today? Sure, it’s a historical event, but the lessons are still super relevant. The Beis Hamikdash was destroyed because of baseless hatred and honestly, when we let anger or resentment take root in our...

Miriam and David’s marriage had always been a challenge. From the very beginning, things felt off. They didn’t have the smooth, romantic start that many couples dream of. Instead, their relationship was filled with tension and unspoken frustration.

Miriam, always the one to take charge, tried to ma...

I carried the weight of trying to hold everything together. The meals, the kids, the house, the calendar, the atmosphere of our home. I truly believed if I didn't manage it all, everything would fall apart.

It was exhausting. But the hardest part? The more I tried to control, the more distance I fe...

For so long, I believed I had to give more to have the marriage I dreamed of.  I was taught that being a proper wife meant doing more for my husband. It was something along the lines of,  "Make him your king, i.e., serve him, and he will make you his Queen."

I thought I just had to work harder and ...

For years, I thought being a good wife meant doing more: organizing, reminding, initiating, fixing, suggesting, managing. I was exhausted… and worse, lonely.

I couldn’t understand how pouring myself into my marriage left me feeling unseen.

Then I discovered something that changed everything:
Th...

There was a time I thought I had to work harder to have the marriage I wanted - more conversations, more lists, more strategies. I believed if I could just explain things better or if he would just listen, we’d be okay.

But I learned something radical.
It wasn’t about fixing him.
It was about softe...

Yom Tov can feel like the longest 48 hours ever when you're dealing with a difficult relationship.

Maybe your husband shows up late for the seudah or not at all after a night of hocking instead of learning, or he sleeps the whole day instead of helping with the kids. Maybe he’s mean and hurtful, sa...

It is beyond frustrating when your husband seems oblivious to your ever-increasing to-do list and is only interested in staring at his phone, staying late at work, or taking a nap while the house is flying. He drags his feet to do the simplest things you ask him to do.  

What can you do about it?

Are you frustrated that your husband is not helping out?  Are you overwhelmed and exhausted and wish he would step up to the plate?

You are definitely not alone. But there is hope, and specific things you can do that can quickly turn your husband into your superhero and make your life feel easier, ...

Are you utterly exhausted? Is your day a juggling act, filled with the demands of work, caring for the kids, preparing meals, cleaning up the house, running errands, and tackling that ever-growing pile of laundry? Each day seems to leave you drained, both physically and emotionally.

My husband neve...

Do you feel stuck in a lonely and loveless marriage? Are you desperate to change things but just don’t know how?

If these feelings resonate with you, you’re not alone. That’s exactly how I felt from the moment my husband and I got married 30 years ago. That is, until I finally repaired my broken ma...

From little girls dressing up as kallahs to jittery first dates, we all dream about the picture-perfect home and marriage. When that dream doesn’t quite turn into reality, it’s crushing. 

Your marriage leaves you feeling disillusioned, resentful, and disappointed. You start asking yourself, “Is THI...

Is self-care selfish? The short answer is — absolutely not. In fact, it’s the glue that keeps your marriage together. Sounds dramatic? Let me explain. 

Life Without Self-Care

Before I transformed my marriage with a Certified Laura Doyle Relationship coach (see my story here), I believed self-care ...

When I got married, I messed up many things. Not to downplay my numerous cooking and laundry mishaps (pink shirts, anyone?), but my attempts at “helping” my husband were far more serious. 

All my life, I’d been taught about being an ezer kenegdo; helping your husband reach his full potential, guidi...

It’s not just you. Many other women struggle in their marriages, too — like Chaya. 

Chaya was a typical woman in a typical marriage with typical issues. She was also completely at a loss. She had no idea where her husband’s anger, distance, and coldness were coming from. She had no clue where it ha...

We finally arrived for our long-awaited vacation. Despite the comfortable surroundings, it was hard to breathe. The silence in the room created a crushing anxiety. 

I had worn myself out with all the arrangements for the trip. I looked forward to feeling free and relaxed.  Instead, deep pain from m...