What if you could have a marriage that is easy, peaceful, and happy instead of painful, lonely, and hostile? 

To my client, Tehila, who was frequently verbally abused, it sounded pretty far-fetched -  especially because her husband saw no reason to change.

He flew into unexpected rages, spewing ha...

When I was in the depths of despair in my marriage, I was certain of only one thing - HE needed to change. Me, not so much.  I was a good wife and a good person.  I was only miserable because of him. 

But he wasn’t interested in changing. And I became more and more resentful. 

So what is there to ...

Why do I have to spell things out - shouldn’t my husband just open his eyes and see what I need?  I’m not expecting him to be a mind reader or anything. OK, maybe I am.  But shouldn't he be that tuned in to me?

It’s so unromantic to tell him what I want - he should just know! If I have to ask, I ma...

Have you ever heard that marriage is all about communication?  I used to let my husband know just how frustrated I felt when I had to ask him a few times before he finally took out the garbage or how abandoned I felt when he paid more attention to his phone than to me.

I also had to communicate exa...

Shana Rishona: I sat in a dream-like haze, my cholent untouched, as my very own talmid chacham waxed brilliantly on this week’s parsha.  How had I merited to marry such a genius?

Fast forward twenty years…and here it comes again: time to clear the fish plates and serve the cholent. Look, I knew it ...