For so long, I believed I had to give more to have the marriage I dreamed of.  I was taught that being a proper wife meant doing more for my husband. It was something along the lines of,  "Make him your king, i.e., serve him, and he will make you his Queen."

I thought I just had to work harder and ...

For years, I thought being a good wife meant doing more: organizing, reminding, initiating, fixing, suggesting, managing. I was exhausted… and worse, lonely.

I couldn’t understand how pouring myself into my marriage left me feeling unseen.

Then I discovered something that changed everything:
Th...