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Tired of having to do everything yourself?

I carried the weight of trying to hold everything together. The meals, the kids, the house, the calendar, the atmosphere of our home. I truly believed if I didn't manage it all, everything would fall apart.

It was exhausting. But the hardest part? The more I tried to control, the more distance I felt in my marriage.


Control Comes From Fear

I never thought of myself as "controlling." I thought of myself as responsible, organized, helpful. But when I was honest with myself, I realized my need to manage everything came from fear:

  • Fear things would fall apart

  • Fear he wouldn’t do it “right”

  • Fear that if I didn’t lead, no one would

The problem? Control suffocates love. It leaves no room for him to show up, lead, contribute, or even surprise me. It drains the intimacy right out of marriage.

What Relinquishing Control Really Means

Letting go isn’t about neglecting your family or becoming passive. It’s about creating space for partnership. It’s trusting that your husband, in his own way, can rise to the occasion.

Relinquishing control sounds like:
✔ “I trust you.”
✔ “Whatever you think.”
✔ “I know you’ll figure it out.”

It feels vulnerable, but it also feels like a breath of fresh air.

When I Let Go, He Stepped Up

The first time I didn’t double-check his plan for a family outing, I was nervous. But guess what? It worked out.

The first time I let him handle bedtime his way, the kids survived. So did I.

And the first time I stopped managing his schedule or “reminding” him constantly, something incredible happened…

He started leading.
He started helping, not because I pushed, but because there was space for him to.

The Secret: He Wants to Make You Happy

Most men want to see their wives happy. But when they feel micromanaged or corrected, they pull back.

When you relinquish control, you invite his masculine energy to rise. You become a woman he wants to take care of, not one he feels he has to battle.

It’s Not Easy… But It’s Worth It

Letting go doesn’t happen all at once. I still catch myself wanting to “fix” or “remind.” But every time I step back, even a little, I feel:

💫 More peace
💫 More connection
💫 More admiration for my husband
💫 More space for me to focus on my joy

Relinquishing Control = Receiving Support

When you stop gripping so tightly, your hands are free to receive.
Love. Support. Initiative.
It’s one of the most beautiful (and humbling) gifts of marriage.

Ready to Experience the Freedom of Letting Go?

I know how scary it feels to stop managing everything. But I also know how peaceful, connected, and cherished you’ll feel when you do.

If you’re ready to experience this shift, I’d love to guide you.

Book a free clarity call here »

Let’s bring peace and partnership back to your home — one soft, courageous step at a time.

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